Trusting Yourself & Owning It

Many times in our lives, we will be faced with decisions and opportunities, sometimes it can be a struggle to believe in yourself and trust your gut. Fear can get in the way, creep in and plant seeds of doubt. Deep down, you just know. Second guessing yourself can pull you in a negative direction. Its easier said then done to just trust the process, and make choices. Especially when fear of hurting others feelings, or when its a change that can affect other people in someway or another. I believe in doing good and also taking care of yourself and your family.


Making decisions have always weighed heavily on me. I always overthought the whole process, on who its affecting, how my life will be altered, and tried to pin down and find the most rational decision. Sometimes this leads to me not following my heart. I've been learning though that sometimes the right things can appear in your life at the right moment you need them too. Its not always easy to make a change but when you feel a strong urge deep down that somethings calling you. Take a look. I think being adaptable to change is key, and following your heart especially.

I'm learning. Learning to trust what I know is right. Learning to trust my gut. To believe in myself. And to know that I am meant for great things. I want others to be able to feel that as well. To make choices without letting judgement and fear hold them back. To feel empowered and strong!

You intuition is your super power, but its up to you to use it.

I've read so many things that have explained how to strengthen your intuition. You do this by meditation, soul searching, and TRUST.

Its very easy to want to pick apart all the facts and details and play out every single outcome in your mind. But it will always come back down to what feels right within you.
Another thing to remember is that we can't please everyone, but we need to keep our intentions good and carry yourself with confidence. again TRUST.

I'm learning this more and more, and allowing myself to feel good and trust myself. Stand tall and know the right things are happening at the right time and embrace it and OWN it, without guilt or worry. If it feels right deep down in your gut then trust that feeling.

"Everything you are experiencing at this moment, whatever it is, is exactly what you need for your personal growth. Trust it"

I read some incredible tips on 5 tips to trusting yourself written by Liz Careathers.

1. Connect with Your Soul Voice.

It’s not easy to hear our soul voice through all the doubt and confusuion circulating around in our head.

To access it, think of when you’re helping someone you cherish with a problem. You see them struggling, you want to fix it all for them, you want to heal every aspect of their pain, you see nothing but their potential, you offer nothing but helpful solutions. That place of love you’re approaching them from is often straight from your soul voice.

When your attention is directed outwards towards helping someone else, your blocks are often released, allowing you to approach their problem with purity and clarity.

Find that voice. That egoless voice born of pure compassion and respect. Find that voice and practice using it on yourself. This is a practice you must do every day until your soul voice is the loudest one you hear.

2. Substantiate Your Trustworthiness.

Think back to times when you followed your inner instincts against the opinions of others and you experienced a favorable outcome. And think back to the times when you followed the opinions of others against your inner instincts and you suffered because of it.

List out those times. What impact did each of those decisions have on your life? What would your life be like if you had chosen differently?

Your soul voice never lets you down. When you truly connect to it it will lead you to where you need to go time and time again. You may not realize it as it’s happening, but if you look back at some of the decisions you’ve made in the past based upon a longing deep within you, you’ll like see just how knowing your soul voice truly was. You’ll likely see that it’s been guiding you effectively all along, helping you to grow and evolve along the way. 

When you’re faced with a big decision, think of those times and your trust in yourself will grow. 

3. Stretch and Expand. 

When faced with an important decision, ask yourself which path will stretch and expand you the most. Which path will challenge you to grow – professionally, spiritually, personally, or in whatever way your decision focuses on.

Which path pushes you outside of your comfort zone in a positive way versus the path that makes you feel like you want to crawl inward, shrink or run.

The path that challenges you to grow may be scary, but it is likely the path you’re being called to take. In analyzing it this way you’ll be able to see if you’re basing your decision on fear-based thinking or on the deeper voice that believes in you and sees your potential.

4. Align Yourself with People Who Understand and Support You.

There’s no faster way to stifle your soul voice than if you’re surrounded by people who don't get you, who criticize you, who belittle your opinions and smother you with theirs, who make you shrink. This can be particularly damaging if it’s coming from family members. 

It’s hard to hear your soul voice in such a hostile environment. And so you shrink, smother and quiet your inner wisdom instead of working on expanding it.

Surround yourself with people who love, support and nurture you, people who help you stretch and expand, and your soul voice will thrive.

5. Let Go and Look Forward.

Make your decision. Make it from a place of love. And then let go. Don’t try to move forward while looking backward. Trust in the process of life. Trust that your soul voice is conspiring with the Universe to get you to go exactly where you need to be.

The more faith you put into your decision, the better your outcome will be. Make your decision and then only look forward. See the end in sight and your soul will continue to conspire with the Universe to get you there. 

And when voices of doubt and judgment inevitably come flooding back through, just stop and pause. Close your eyes. Meditate. Go for a walk in nature. Go through these steps again and wait for your soul voice to rise back up. Welcome it back in.  

What are your biggest struggles when it comes to trusting yourself and making important decisions?

https://strongsensitivesouls.com/5-steps-trusting-yourself-more/

Twins Are A "Blessing".  But I feel Like I've Missed Out.

    I'm going to be completely real with you here. I've always wanted more kids after Lexi, but what I imagined and what actually happened were completely different. (Is it ever really though?)

  It's easy with your first child to get excited and encourage the milestones, everything is new and exciting and time goes by so fast. Thinking back to how time flew with Lexi, I knew with my next and final child that I would want to slow down. I imagined things so different. With Lexi I struggled to breast feed, my body just won't produce no matter what I tried, I felt like I had failed. I knew that I would try again with another baby and I would be able to do better.


     I imagined that because I was "experienced" I wouldn't be as anxious and I would be able to enjoy more of the small moments that pass all too quickly. I imagined more snuggles and less rushing, soaking in every little smile and movement. I imagined really taking time to remember the feel and the smell of holding that tiny precious baby in your arms overwhelmed with love.

Twins changed that.

    When you have two babies you run in survival mode, barely functioning, over emotional, sleep deprived and trying to not loose yourself in the in stereo double screaming filling the room. For the first year I felt like I was drowning, loosing myself, giving my everything to just make it to the next day. I Love my girls more than I can ever explain, and I'm so grateful for them, but it hurts my heart that I never got those slowed down moments with them. Everything was DIVIDED, my time, my energy, my attention and love.

And it was exhausting. It IS exhausting.

    I barely remember the first year of the girls life and it crushes me. (The photos I have are priceless because without them everything's a blur) are I'm so thankful we are past the sleepless nights and that they are playing and thriving. But I can't help but feel sad when I think back and realize that I missed out on really soaking in those last "baby" moments that I'm ever going to have. (believe me I'm done having kids) I wish I had the time that I had with Lexi, with Aimee and Rylie.

 
 I know there was many smiles and good moments in their first year, but the majority of things I remember is tears, frustration, and struggling to feel like I can function again.  I've learnt so much and grown so much because I am a twin parent, but this for me was the biggest downfall for me to accept. I think its something I'll forever have mom guilt about. Wishing I could give each of them ALL of me instead of just 1/3.

    I've had so many people say to me "I always wanted twins" or "I hope I have twins".
Now don't get me wrong, Twins are so much fun and I couldn't picture my life any other way, but I don't think it's ever something I imagined or would have wished for. Everything that happens happens for a reason, if your destined to have singletons, soak it in! Enjoy being able to give undivided love and attention.

   There's struggles in every aspect of being a parent with any child, but this is probably MY biggest mental hurdle to overcome since having the girls. I'm sure things will be a roller-coaster with these three my whole life, but now that I get a decent nights sleep, I try to slow down and enjoy all the wonderful moments more. Paying attention to being more mindful and present with them and that's all I can do.

Thanks so much for reading.
Much love, Teesha.

Never forget, Everyone Has A Different Story 

"“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

As an empath I feel things deeply, I can easily pick up the emotions around me, I can read the vibes of the room, and I can often be quite sensitive. This can be a blessing and curse at times. maybe these traits is what makes this subject so much more relevant to me.

All I know is I have a really hard time understanding why people can be so competitive, judgemental, and cruel to each other. Why not accept each other? Why not support each other? Every single person you've ever met and ever will meet has experienced different things, they were raised by different people, and well, we are in every way DIFFFERENT than each other. We each only know what we've experienced, which is why I find it unfair to judge another. Being different and unique is what makes us so incredibly special and valuable.

I'm not sure why we do this or if its ever really going to change but maybe by brining awareness to it is a start. Even children begin to bully each other at young ages and it just isn't right. Being mindful of what we say and think about others and being aware of the sheer fact that no one has experienced the same life, may bring a understanding.  I am hopeful anyway. 

All of this came to mind when I was thinking about my own feelings and experiences. Most of you know I have twins. This was the most shocking and life changing thing I've ever experienced. I researched and researched everything I could about how I was going to make this work. I was terrified, and what I found from every twin mama out there, was to accept help. My pride didn't love this idea, but I had no idea what I was in for.

My entire pregnancy I struggled with depression and shell shock from the news (we weren't planning to have any babies yet, let alone two) I wanted to be happy, I wanted to accept things, but I just wasn't. 

The girls were born and I felt no different. Resentment, depression, and hopelessness along with severe sleep depression (we are talking minutes of sleep some nights) was full force. I have always been especially good at recognizing my emotions and I knew I needed help. Help was offered to me, and I accepted. I am beyond words grateful for my sister in law who offered to come daily to help me. If it weren't for her I truly don't know how I would have gotten by. I feel guilty all the time for the help. But I also know that I was a better mom for accepting that help when I needed it and having to put my pride aside for my mental health and my children. 

Despite myself recognizing all of this, I've had comments thrown at me like " You must have had it so easy, or It's nice to have a live in babysitter" which broke my heart and made me feel like less of a mom. If they knew that I was struggling would they have said those things? Should it even have mattered?  I never demanded or expected help. I accepted it. 

My whole example just leads me back to my point of not judging another when you don't know their story. I'm strong and I'll let these go, but it hurt. We need to be kind, we need to be more aware of what we are putting out there, and to never try to dim another light or make them feel less. 

I think its a crazy thought, because to one person who for example say experienced a loss of a pet. To them, that may have been the most difficult heartbreaking loss and truly deeply impacts them on a large level. To someone however who say has lost both parents at a young age, the loss of a pet would be less.  Regardless of what's deemed "more painful" every person has a different story, and every person deserves compassion and respect. So many times I've heard people say "well that's nothing" and continue with their own story. (I have done it too) but I'm now starting to recognize that this unnecessary competition is only doing more harm than good to those around you. We all want to feel heard, and valued, and accepted. 

I am proud of myself and what I've gone through, they are my girls, they are the reason I'm so tired, and they are the reason now that I'm so happy. I would never change what I needed to do to for them. I work my butt off daily, never resting till they are bed for the night. I am so freaking PROUD of my hustle, and SO GRATEFUL for all the help that's led me to be able to be here. 

Lets all go be kind, and listen to others more openly. 

Much Love, Teesha.

Business and Babies

My 5 Steps To Working With The Chaos

There are so many things that I've read online about how to organize your day, how to take action to be successful, and how to be productive that are geared towards entrepreneurs that either don't have kids or have kids in full time care. 

For myself being a stay at home mom with a business, reading those were daunting. What they describe as easy changes seem incredibly impossible when trying to apply them with 3 young children running around.

Advise like: Wake up early, Meditate, Keep your home clean and organized, Work uninterrupted. I laughed. For me those things are not always possible and definitely not "easy".

I know its just as possible for a mompreneur to be successful while home with the kids, its just about doing things differently.

1. Let go of expectations

I don't mean not to be organized. You should absolutely be making to do lists and writing everything down when you can to stay productive, and set timelines for yourself. You just gotta be realistic. Have a plan, but when things happen (maybe kids don't nap that day, or billy pushed sally down the stairs and you find yourself in the ER, or one of them rips up your notes) know that things will always work out and to not be too hard on yourself when there are bad days. Things always workout and you'll make up time lost on the good days!

2. Take advantage of the good days

When things are going smoothly and your feeling good, take FULL advantage and get as much done as you can!

Work ahead and prep so that your prepared for the bad days. Days like this are the best because I feel so accomplished and I'm ready for the next few days regardless of what may occur. Even to take some time to just fill out your calendar or update tasks you need to complete make you feel like you got everything back on track!

3. Keep an open mind & work on creating a predictable routine

I know. Don't laugh. I say this with MUCH flexibility. 

But creating some sort of daily routine guideline is not only beneficial for you and your business, but its also great for your kids to have that daily structure.

My day for example: 

7 AM: Wake-up, breakfast, coffee, time with kids. 

10 AM: Babies nap, Lexi has play time, and I get to work!! (sometimes more than a hour sometimes less)

12-3 PM- I make lunch, clean, organize and do what i can with kids running around (I wrote the first draft for this with a baby on my lap)

3 PM- Nap again-I usually plan dinner, spend time with Lexi, finish up small duties.

4-7 PM- Hubby gets home, we eat dinner and family time.

7-8 PM- Bedtime routine

8-9 PM- More work/whatever I want or need to do. 

9-10 PM- Unwind with Dylon and relax. 

Everyday will have changes but our routine generally looks the same. Whether your a SAHP or a working parent- figure out a general structure you and your family can follow that can balance things. 

4. Take care of yourself!!

Bottom line, if your not feeling good, nothings going to get done. 

Fuel yourself and stay healthy by eating nourishing food. Make yourself easy healthy snacks for you and the kids, not only are you demonstrating positive healthy eating habits, you'll feel good, and have the energy to get stuff done. Being a parent is demanding enough, let alone running a business, so you gotta keep fuel in the tank! 

If anyone's wanting, I'd be happy to make a post about some easy healthy snack and food that we often eat. 

Another important key to staying healthy, is staying hydrated! Make sure your drinking water DAILY, the average person should be consuming at least 2 L of water per day. 

5. Enjoy it

Take time to laugh, snuggle, and embrace being able to hustle from home. Need a break? have a dance party and soak in all the beautiful smiles and joy that children bring to our lives. Being able to be home is such a blessing and I'm so grateful. The days are long and it's by no means "easy" but the experience is so unbelievably worth it!

Hope this helps anyone who may be struggling finding that "balance" working from home. All about consistency and embracing the chaos. 

Much Love, Teesha. 

The Terrible Twos Were Nothing

I'm not sure about any of you, but I'm drowning in what I can only describe as hair pulling, feisty drama, that my now 4 year old is bringing out full force.

I think I got lucky because up until this point she was the "golden child". Seriously. She was completely potty trained by 2, basically always listened (I didn't even need to babyproof much), I didn't even know when she was teething! People warned me about the terrible twos, and the year came and went with me quite gleefully thinking "well that wasn't so bad". 

Three hit and little sneak peaks of sass from my threenager became more prominent but I was still managing. 

Now coming into year four, all I can say is holy hanna. Now keeping in mind that Lexi had just been through lots of big changes becoming a big sister to not one but two new babies. I can only rationalize her behavior. None the less as a mom with three kids under 4. This ISNT easy. 

She's been fighting me more than ever on every little thing , getting more emotional, aggressive, and out of control (I know this is also developmental too). She even slammed her door and called me a POOPY POOP! (I nearly cracked up, it was hilarious) For some of you your probably thinking "welcome to my world" but for Lexi this has been a whole new ball game. 

So I did some research, reached out to other moms, and I've decided on a system/routine we've been staying consistent with. 

Its been breaking my heart to be more strict with her (knowing that its her age and circumstances) But I'm raising these tiny humans to grow up to be respectful adults that I would actually want to be friends with.

Right now, I am mom, and I have to shove all that guilt aside for the better good. 

Here's what I've been doing. As an example I will use cleaning her room and the fight that usually causes. 

1. Focus on keeping myself calm and collected. 

2. Get down to her level and explain why she needs to clean her room, what will happen if she doesn't (usually early bedtime), and what will happen if she does (family game after dinner or park).

3. Still no go?... Offer to help by directing where to start (pick up clothes)

4. Still a no go?...Re mention consequences. Give 1 more chance. 

5. STILL no go... Then I get firm. Lights off. In bed. I offer a story if she calms down but calmly explain why this happened and that this is the consequence and that tomorrows a new day! Say I love you and walk away. She screams usually but I just let her (I check in and remind her that this is what's happening and ill see her tomorrow)

I read that giving too many chances will teach them to keep pushing those boundaries and you'll end up having to put your foot down in the end anyway. I choose a hour fight over a 5 hour fight any day!!

I make sure always to say good morning and give hugs and chat about the night before, asking her why she thought what happened went down and what we can do to make today better so we can have family time. 

Its been working great for us so far and she's already learning, but like anything its just gonna take consistency!

Parenting isn't easy. Its tests your will and patience daily. I'm in no way suggesting I know everything
(I sure as hell don't) but this is what's been working for us, maybe you've been struggling with your strong willed child also and I want you to know your not alone and your doing amazing!! Feel free to comment if you have something that works for you and your family that you've been applying, I love to learn an hear from other mamas!

 So Cheers to Five!! (I've heard it gets better!! *fingers crossed*)

Much love, Teesha.

Here we go...

Welcome to my first EVER Blog, and my very FIRST post. I have been doing all the research to figure out how to even pull this off for days now, so hopefully it'll all work out.

First off, an Introduction...

 
       My name is Teesha Hall, I am a 25 year old Mompreneur who works her business from home with her babies. I'm married to the most amazing man and the love of my life, we have 3 beautiful little girls (4 year old and our twins who are 1 and a half). Needless to say life can get pretty crazy running a household, husband working full time, and taking care of three little ones at home while trying to work my businesses and fuel my creativity.

    My goal with this blog is to be able to express myself and share with people how I make all the incredible things I do work! Hopefully Ill be able to provide some really useful tools that have worked for me to help others!

      I'm a very creative person and I get easily excited and distracted, because there's just SO many things I want to do and accomplish and create! I feel beginning to express myself in a format such as blogging will be a great way for me to share and create with everyone. Being so mentally active (I often feel like my wheels are just spinning a million miles a minute) I want to be able to share tools I use that help me get past these things.

      Another thing about me, I have an anxiety (thus the overactive mind), and i'm also a VERY open person (I sometimes over share..its a privileged and a curse). I believe its very important for people to communicate and recognize emotions and mental health issues not as weaknesses but merely things we have to be supported through. So because of this Im a huge supporter of mental health matters. Ill be sharing some of my tools that allow me to live the crazy life I do, run a business and manage my anxiety.

      I've been a stay at home mom now for pretty much 4 years ( I worked a bit before the twins were born) and I run a few of my home based businesses. Since I'm such a creative person I have so many outlets, I'm a photographer which has been a passion of mine since high school, I make bath bombs, I paint, draw, and also work my online business too. It can absolutely be a struggle to make all of this work, but depending on the season some things become more active and others slow down so I go with the "flow".  I really want to help other women feel empowered and know their worth and believe that they too can achieve what they want in life. The amount of personal growth I've experienced since joining my company and surrounding myself with such an incredible team of people who believe in each other, was something that fell into my lap and I'm so grateful, and we are expanding and building daily towards helping everyone create financial freedom from home. 

My biggest accomplishment though, is my girls. I've always known I've wanted to be a mom, and having those beautiful, amazing little ones changes my life in so many amazing ways, I just feel truly grateful to be their mom.

I'm super excited to get this going and my goal is post a  new blog once a week, I already have so many things I want to write about and i'm so excited to share. I'd love to hear from you if there's anything you'd love me to share and write about!

Much Love. Teesha